How to Handle the Unexpected in 5 Simple Steps – And Not Let It Ruin Your Whole Day
Read this step-by-step guide and find out how to handle unexpected situations like getting a bill and you feel like everything is falling apart.
First things first, I have the finances to pay this bill, fortunately.
And I was expecting a bill of some sort to show up that was around $50-$100 at the most.
The bill I received is $182 and I feel so frustrated and betrayed.
Frustrated because the system is so jacked up.
Betrayed because I was trying to take care of myself and my health and this is what I received.
And it feels like no one will give you a straight answer beforehand about how much it might cost.
It just feels like this game that I hate playing and don’t know how to get out of.
The First Step: Throw a Tantrum
Yes, you read that correctly, you have my permission to throw a tantrum.
So when something crappy happens like getting an unexpected bill you can work through the emotions that come up for you so that it doesn’t ruin your whole day, week, month, or year.
The first step is venting and letting all of your frustration out.
You get to say “poor me…” and “Why does this always happen to me?”
You can curse the establishment, cuss, yell, and freak out.
You can cry tears of frustration and have a big old pity party for yourself.
You can do this alone or with someone who will listen and not egg you on.
The important part is that you set a time limit for how long you will allow yourself to feel this way.
Then do your best to get it out during that time.
Is it 15-minutes?
Or do you have your pity party while taking a walk outside?
Or do you rant for 30-minutes to a loved one?
For me, I give myself a few minutes to get upset and then if I’m not letting it go I journal about it.
That is where this blog post came from! Lol.
By the time I’m done journaling I’ve written it all out, and remember it doesn’t have to be coherent, normally I can move on to the next step.
So today the part I opened with is my rant.
Step 2: Take Time for Yourself
You ranted your feelings, maybe cried, yelled and cussed.
Now it is time to walk away.
To do something for yourself that is completely unrelated to the bill you received.
And you might want to do something that is free since you have to pay the bill right?
So what can you do for 15-30 minutes for yourself right now?
All the energy you just expended getting mad means that before you can find a way to deal with your bill you need to fill yourself back up with good energy.
If you skip the step and move on then you won’t be able to shift out of the negative energy from the unexpected bill.
You’ll have a week-long pity party for yourself and let the whole thing drag on and on.
You can choose to do this if you want.
There is no right or wrong way to do this.
If you want to do something different though I encourage you to walk away from this post right now and take 15-30 minutes for yourself.
Here are some free things that I might do to fill up my energy:
- Take a nap
- Take a walk outside in the sun
- Meditate for 10-minutes
- Plan the new basil plant I just bought
- Sit in the sun doing nothing for 20-minutes
Ready – set – go!
Okay, I’m back now.
I did what I said above and planted my 4 new basil plants.
I also repotted another plant and then realized that I needed a longer break to release my frustration.
So I gave myself permission to take it.
Did you give yourself enough time for your self-care?
If not, walk away again and give yourself permission to take as much time as you need.
If yes, then let’s move on to the next step.
Step #3: Brainstorming Your Options
Now is the time when you get to start looking at options.
This is like a big brainstorm session.
Here’s a useful tip: don’t limit your options while brainstorming.
Take time to write down every idea that you come up with no matter how crazy it sounds.
Try to free yourself up to think of anything.
If you don’t have the energy to support this step all your brain gives you is the bare minimum or even negative thoughts.
When you come from a place of possibility something you might have overlooked before now seems plausible.
Take a few minutes and give it a try.
Here is my list of options on how I could address this bill:
- Don’t pay it
- Ignore it
- Challenge it
- Pay it with savings
- Pay with business expenses
- Find out more information to get more options
- Get a new client
- Upsell an existing client
- Get support to pay it
What are your options?
Step #4: Choosing a Solution
After looking at your options there may be a couple that pop up for you as a great solution.
It may not be exactly what you wanted to do and normally you can see how to take the next step.
Sometimes more people need to be involved in your solution for feedback or by providing support.
This is fine and a great way for you to evaluate if this is the best solution for you right now.
How Do You Know If This Is the Right Solution?
Useful Tip: There is no right solution.
There is only the solution that is best for you at this time.
You get to make this call.
However, in order to know if it is the solution that serves you the best ask yourself this question:
“Have I released my feelings and emotions around receiving this bill?”
If you are still raging pissed about the injustice of it all then the answer is “No, you have not released it, yet.”
Your next step is to take some time away from this to see what is going on for you.
While trying to see what else is going on this is a great time to do something that gives you energy, and let your diffuse thinking work.
Basically, take more time for yourself and let your brain chew over this to see what it might come up with.
Then you can ask yourself these questions:
“Why am I still upset?”
“How is being upset serving me right now?”
“What emotions come up for me when I think about this bill?”
“What feelings come up for me when I think about this bill?
If you answered “Yes, I have released my feelings and emotions around this bill,” then congrats!
You are ready to take action.
Follow through with the best solution as soon as possible so that you can move forward.
Now you are free to focus your time and energy on something that serves you, way more than that bill did.
Let’s Recap How to Handle the Unexpected
Step 1: Have a Tantrum
Step 2: Do Self-Care
Step 3: Brainstorm Your Options
Step 4: Choose A Solution
Step 5: Ask “Have I released this?”
Answer No: Do more self-care
Answer Yes: Take action
Ready to See A Change In Your Life?
I’ve put together a way for you to evaluate how you are showing up in your life.
The first step is the “30-minute Challenge” that was created specifically for you to use after reading or listening to this blog post. The challenge will give you a specific action or idea to journal on to help you start to see a change in your life.
Try the challenge and see how you feel when you are doing it.
This is very important to help you start to shift out of old patterns of thought and action.
Then you can use the “Coach Yourself” questions to help you work through things that might be showing up for you. And identify how you want to show up in the future.
Lastly, you can use the “Accountability” questions to help you take action as soon as possible.
All of these exercises will help you to create new habits, find balance in your work, and prioritize yourself in your business.
Step 1: 30-Minute Challenge
Take a few minutes to sit and think about or journal on the question and the exercise below:
Take a minute to think about another event recently where you had a similar reaction to getting an unexpected bill in the mail.
What was the event?
How did you feel?
What emotions came up for you?
Challenge Yourself: This week mark down how many times you experience those feelings or emotions that you wrote about above.
Step 2: Coach Yourself
What surprised you about the emotions you had?
What surprised you about the feelings you had?
Why do you think this is showing up for you in different areas of your life?
How successful were you at following each step on How to Handle the Unexpected?
How can you support yourself this week to take 1 action step to release those feelings?
Step 3: Accountability
Do you know what to do?
Can you do it?
When will you get started?
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